Grace Blacksea is a business strategist and founder of Quench Collective. Grace went from being a corporate event planner to helping female entrepreneurs banish burnout, work smarter not harder and prioritize themselves. After we recorded this episode, I went back to listen to it again and had so many “aha moments.” From discussing setting boundaries but viewing them as your values to figuring out how to remain true to those values, Grace offers so many fabulous tips. You’ll hear at the end how I reviewed my values and changes I made after recording our interview. Get ready to find out how to use time as your foundational piece to leverage strategy and create more impact, income and ultimately freedom!
Let’s define our values and build our dream lifestyles!
What we’re talking about
- Deciding The Life You Dreamed Of Isn’t Living Up To Your Expectations
- Treating Yourself Like Your Favorite Pair Of $100 Jeans
- Objectives vs. Goals
Deciding The Life You Dreamed Of Isn’t Living Up To Your Expectations
Grace started her career as an event planner basically right out of high school. She worked her way up the corporate ladder working late nights, commuting and managing her phone 24/7. She was designing boring ballrooms and at times, sleeping on her office floor. She hit total burnout and realized that her dream job turned into a modern day nightmare. The life she created for herself was not the life she wanted. Grace realized and recognized that she didn’t want her worth to be measured by her productivity. This is so often the truth for many others, myself included. But what do we do when we come to this realization?
Treating Yourself Like Your Favorite Pair of $100 Jeans
My corporate career involved me sleeping with my phone on my nightstand and taking calls 24/7. I’ve taken this bad habit and brought it with me in my new business, so I wanted to know how Grace advises her clients to break habits of being so available. Grace explains that we only have a finite amount of time on earth, so it’s important that we prioritize what we spend our time on.
Grace has her clients define their personal values…not their business values! What matters most to you as a person and give those things “boots,” by giving them purpose in defining them as your values. She shared one client’s struggle of saying yes to working late, but that meant missing out on time with her son and family dinner. By saying yes to work, she was saying no to her family. We need to look at yes and no from a different lens and that saying no is not a bad thing. It reinforces your values and reiterates that to others.
Grace uses the example of your favorite pair of expensive jeans. You will make sure they are washed properly, dried properly, folded and kept neat. Do you take that good of care of yourself? You should be writing your own care tag and living that out. Respect yourself enough to spend time with yourself or your family, whatever is important to you. Decide how you need to be cared for without fading or fraying so you can stay intact.
Objectives vs. Goals
Grace teaches her clients to set personal values and quarterly objectives. Ask yourself what fills you up and what powers you down. Figure out what you need to do to power down or turn off in order to fill yourself back up. Create non-negotiables for yourself such as spending 10 minutes outside every day.
Grace reminds us that goals are the things you set on New Year’s Eve and are the desert island you want to get to. Objectives are the vehicles in which we get to our goals. All too often we pile things on our plate and are so bogged down that we are left with zero momentum. By defining quarterly objectives, we can move the vehicle forward.
Have you defined your personal values?
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